Chapter 35
I believe that our society thinks we should all have our junk together. Take a look at someone who seems to have it all put together and inside you will probably find someone who is what I call “The Great Pretender”. That is no knock to them, but it is a way to let everyone know that our personal beliefs may be skewed when we think someone has it better than yourself. At first glance, we see someone who some may wish to be more like. Inside that person though, there may be a struggle of trying to help themselves and others despite their own personal battle to sustain a normal day. We may actually be less wanting to exchange places than we think and should not be envious of those people. The reason why I talk about this today, is if that person was us, “The Great Pretender”, I would have a few words of advice – Hold on.
There are many stories in the world, such as where an amazing nurse at a hospital that takes care of their patients at their work, who seems to have it all together, actually later goes home to their own Mom (or family member) who lives with them that has a debilitating mental and/or nervous system disease that requires attention to ensure their health. It’s going from one stressful situation to another and not taking a break while trying to pretend everything is okay. It is quite a selfless task and requires immense patience and mental fortitude to keep it all together emotionally. Maybe another person who works a full time job, such as a teacher, counselor, or social worker, who tries to inspire the next generation to believe in themselves and never give up, but goes home to a house that is broken because a family member has cancer and has zero control in the situation other than to be present in each moment and prays to calm their fears. This hopelessness creeps in on so many of us, but they pretend to others that they have everything put together, but really they are broken inside. These pretenders need our help.
These Great Pretenders are working overtime. I wonder what happens at some point to them? I would want to give them advice and be there for them, help them whatever they needed. I think that we all need to do this, but the funny thing is that we may not know what a certain person is truly living through. They are trying to create positivity and hope in life, but yet their own lives seem hectic, problematic, and at some point, maybe entering a place of despondency. As a humanity, I feel we all need to take a moment and try to understand ourselves and others better so we can better support everyone around us. Maybe this doesn’t describe your life, but maybe there are others who experience something like this daily. This quick little reminder to help us pause for a moment, soften our hearts, and treat others with generosity and understanding. To reach out and check in on a loved one for an extra moment does magical things. I don’t believe that most people will ever admit they need your care and patience, but if we could all just use this as our baseline of how we treat people and act everyday, our world would transform into a better place.
If you knew a person that needed help, how would you help them? What if you knew they were struggling, but they made it seem like they are okay? A better question is how are you acting daily with each person you interact with? Does the way you treat people match how we should support others? If not, how could you change to meet them where you are? These are just a few questions we could use to maybe start within ourselves, things we are in control of when we deal with things that are not within our control.
Our world is a place that needs people who can are willing to help other people. It’s kind of ironic, the Great Pretenders are the ones already doing this kind of work, yet they are the ones that need our care and attention the most. I have a had a lot of interactions with a lot of different people in my personal and professional life, and I have found (and research supports my claim) that the ones who seem more patient, more caring, more willing to help others, tend to have more experience in certain things, are the ones that at one time or are currently being the Great Pretender because they have or are going through something challenging within their lives.
We need to find The Great Pretenders in this world. Dig in and go to work because I bet you already know someone who is a Great Pretender, but yet needs some extra TLC, your time, and personal attention in their lives to help boost them.
To The Great Pretenders in this world , I repeat myself – Hold On – help is on the way.
If you or someone you know is struggling and needs additional help, please reach out. There are many amazing services available to assist you. You can call the crisis hotline by texting 988 or going online to 988lifeline.org to chat with someone.
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